“How To Love” --Brianna

As the kids of our time, we are the generation that influences the next, so there are things
that we start that move on into eternity. Modern day societal norms include either caring too
much and caring too little which results in 2 social groups within our society. The people that are
looked up to are the insensitive and careless but the people that are looked down upon nowadays
are people that are too sensitive and emotional. This leads to many misinterpretations of love
whether it be; too scared to love, wanting to pursue love or just not wanting anything at all. Love
is something that has kept the human race going for centuries but we have slowly lost touch of
what it means to truly love.
Simple steps to showing and falling in love:
● Being with someone for a long period of time and bonding soul to soul.
○ Having a spiritual connection with someone is the first step in finding life time
friends and your soul mate in life. This creates a bond that cannot be broken and a
bond that reaches to your inner self.
● Putting someone ahead of yourself.
○ This exemplifies how much you care for someone and that in no matter what you
do, they will always come first. Having that spiritual bond with someone will
show you what it truly means to care for someone and it will have you taking care
of them, better than you taking care of yourself.
● Being there for someone whether times are good or bad.
○ A spiritual bond will have you staying by someone’s side whether they are
striving or sinking. This shows love simply because you are willing to stick by
someone’s side even though they are at a low point; because even though they are
at a low, you still think they are the best.
● Showing affection no matter the circumstances.
○ The other person cannot read your mind therefore you must act upon your
emotions. If you are really feeling someone romantically or simply as a good
friend, then you have to let them know. From a romantic state, sometimes it’s
hard to show how you feel about someone but at times; it can all be brought out
through affection.
● Communication is key.
○ The other person cannot read your mind nor your emotions. Keeping constant
communication with the other person is vital to keeping a relationship going. You
have to keep your partner updated on how you feel about things or simply how
your day was. Small things like that create other conversations but the number
one thing is to let your partner know what’s up.
● Love yourself before loving someone else.
○ Although some people may hate who they are, you can’t love without loving
yourself. You must realize your self worth and set it as a standard as to finding a
partner. When looking for a partner, you must ask yourself if they can hold you to
the standard that you deserve because you deserve the world but you have to find
the person that is willing to give their all in making it happen.
● Making it last.
○ You must determine whether or not you want long term or short term. Love is
something that you feel over a long period of time and the word ‘love’ represents
all the times you have shared together and are willing to continue those memories.
You should always remember that a person who truly values you will never put
themselves in a position to lose you. Think long term and not short term.
● Be realistic about love.
○ Not everything will be all sweet all the time and you must be realistic about
things. Every relationship has its ups and down but it's the recovery that makes
the bond stronger than ever before. You must value all the other things first before
pursuing love because it’s not always gonna be a fairytale-like story but the
willingness to stay together is what represents love.
● Growth should be continuous.
○ In a relationship, both people should strive to be their best and also encourage the
other person to do the same. In a relationship, you help eachother grow to
eachother’s full potential. Relationships are difficult at times and if you are at a
low, sometimes it is necessary to grow apart to become closer.
I've had my fair share of broken hearts, but who hasn't. Where in the end, it left me
extremely delicate about the topic of love. I soon turned away any chance at love because I was
too scared I'd love more than the other person did to me, vulnerability, my emotions fading as the
relationship progressed or being lied to and hurt once again. Many people questioned me why I
didn't want someone to love and I would always respond “ I'm happy all alone”, which I was. I
just needed more time to myself to learn from my past relationships and not repeat it and if I
ended up finding my person through my journey then everything would turn out fine. I'm happy I
did so because I wouldn't have found my boyfriend, Adrian, who has showed me nothing but
love and guidance towards happiness. He has shown me the true definition of love and has led
me to open up to him without regretting it. Through all the experiences we've already had I still
crave new ones each day with him because through all the laughs, fights, and tears, I can't
imagine my life without him being there by my side.