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Tuesday, October 31, 2023

October Writers!!!!!!

 


We have a new collection of submissions to share for this month.

There are 10 pieces. Please make sure to read ALL of them.  Use the navigation bar to the left to see all of the posts.

Once you have read the submissions, select 3 or more of your favorites and leave helpful, positive comments and feedback.

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xo,

Mrs. Solano

Validation--Katie

 

    Anxiously swinging my legs, I waited impatiently for this moment, one that had been lingering in the back of my mind all weekend. My eyes track Mr. Schaina's leisurely stride around the room as if staring him down would make my calculus test jump to the top of the seemingly endless pile of papers. As his direction changes towards my table, my heart nearly jumps out of my chest. He slides my test face down, and I brace myself for whatever score is written. As I turn the page over, I see a happy face drawn in the top right corner – a smiling face made of red ink, a mocking indication of a score less than perfect. Out of the corner of my eye, I could see the star-covered papers of my classmates, a sight that destroyed any pride in my smiley face. Who knew stars and smiley faces would have such an impact on my fragile ego. My sense of self-worth, damaged by simple, childish doodles. Since when did I start tying my intelligence, worth, and self-esteem to something as miniscule as validation? More importantly, why have I? 

    According to Merriam-Webster, validation is the act, process, or instance of validating. (Not very helpful, Mr. Webster.) As we continue down the dictionary chain of words to their roots, it defines validating as recognizing, establishing, or illustrating the worthiness or legitimacy of. Aha. There it is. The key word that makes the mind crave validation: worthiness. We experience the desire for validation in almost every aspect of our daily lives. Constantly refreshing Instagram to see if the number of likes on your last story went up. Patiently waiting for someone to compliment a project you have poured hours of heart and soul into. Willingly drowning in AP classes in hopes others will view you as more competent than you actually are. 

    It's almost as if validation were a drug, plaguing our minds until we can no longer feel confident in ourselves without it. It has the remarkable ability to provide us a temporary escape from our deepest fears and insecurities. Perhaps that is why we have become so dependent on validation. We want to be seen, be heard, and, most of all, be worth something. With any drug comes its list of harmful side effects, and validation is no exception. Dan Reznichenko puts it best: "In the pursuit of academic, professional, aesthetic validation, we abuse our minds and bodies through overwork." In the deluded hunt for validation, we throw all consideration for our health, both mental and physical, out the window. The sheer number of all-nighters, skipped meals, and ditched social outings we endure in hopes of a few words of praise and recognition are slowly killing us; our bodies and minds crumbling under the pressure of such an unhealthy lifestyle. Why are we so willing to sacrifice ourselves for a few superficial compliments? 

    That is all validation is: surface-level praise with no real meaning. You can look at a project and assume the person who made it put in much time and effort, but how realistic is that? For all we know, they could have thrown it together in an hour and got it done just to get it done. If you were to compliment that project, you would be only fueling that person's poor work ethic. Cementing a lousy habit into their life as they believe doing the bare minimum will achieve some praise. Rather than relying on validation, we must acknowledge our own efforts. Instead of putting myself down because I failed to score a perfect grade, I should have been proud that I scored high enough to earn a smiley face. Even if I do not receive compliments for my work, at least I know that what I put forth was made from my blood, sweat, and tears. Small victories build self-confidence, a confidence that should be unwavering against minor attacks on our self-worth. Even if it seems virtually impossible to stop that continuous pining for validation, we have to start somewhere before we all come crashing down. Afterall, we are in a race to the top, not the bottom. 



Definition of Validation - https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/validation

Definition of Validating - https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/validating


Fear?--Holiday

 

Fear. The feeling that keeps us up at night. The uncertainties and questions we don’t want to know the answers to. The chill that runs up your spine while watching a scary film. It is the most primal emotion ingrained in our human psyche. When we are young, our fears are creatures we see in movies, dark shadows in our closets, and gigantic hairy spiders. Our parents console us, reassuringly turning on the lights to prove no creepy clowns are hiding behind the coat hanger, zombies don’t exist, and most spiders fear us. We believe our parents, and for the most part, overcome our fears. This remains true until we grow older when our fears become more complex, debilitating, and real. Fears such as loneliness, failure, death, love, and pain are difficult to ignore and motivate many of our decisions. Fear has existed since the beginning of time, and it has played a vital role in our survival. Fear helps us learn and avoid dangerous situations in the future. However, despite its adaptive function, fear can interfere with our daily lives and prevent us from living the way we want if it becomes too intense or persistent. It can manifest itself in a variety of ways, ranging from mild physical symptoms to severe psychological distress. Fear is a feeling I know all too well. 

It’s September 28th, 2016, and my birthday is in exactly 5 days. The Wednesday before the best day of the year. The only day of the year that really matters, besides Halloween and Christmas. I get through my school lessons just like any other day, but today, my mind is pierced at the exact moment lunch begins. After we are dismissed, I rush towards my new friends, eager to inform them of my party on Sunday. My heart is pounding in my chest as they sit at their seats as normal, and I squeeze into the seat on the edge of the table. I devour my lunch to make time for my appeal. I assure myself, I won’t be left by myself on my birthday, so long as everything goes according to plan. I take a deep breath. It must be perfect. 

“Hey, guys!” I exclaim, hoping to get everyone’s attention. A few of them sheepishly turn their heads away from their lunches and look at me with torpor. “As you may know, my birthday is coming up in a few days, and I would like to invite you ALL to my slumber party on Sunday!” I rummage through my bag and grab out a fistful of letters. 

“Here are your invitations, please let me know if you can’t make it,” I say in the tone I recited. I pause. Silence fills up our table, and I begin to feel nauseous. Doubt plagues my heart. My eyes well up, but I blink my thoughts away. Much to my horror, I realize, I wish I had never uttered those words. 

“I can’t go, I have a soccer game on Sunday,” says Mila. 

“My mom doesn’t allow me to go to sleepovers,” says Kiera.

 “I have church on Sunday, I won’t be allowed,” Samantha chimes in. 

“That’s okay, I completely understand,” I muster.

 “ I can’t go either, sorry,” says Adrianna. 

“I can’t go to other people’s houses,” says Madison. 

“Yeah me too,” says Ava.

 “ I have something I’ve got to go to on Sunday,” says Chloe. 

“Oh… okay” I whisper. Before I looked up, they all left the table without another word. My heart is throbbing through my chest, and I find that I am unsure what I will tell my mom when she asks about the invitations. I feel frozen in my seat. My greatest fear has been confirmed. I helplessly pick up the letters dropped to the ground, wondering if this is how the rest of my life will be. Were they all just busy? Did I pick the wrong day for the party? Were any of them telling the truth? Are they still my friends? Am I alone? 

I traipse back to class in terror, wanting to take back this entire day, and never invite anyone in the first place. 

Mark Twain once said, “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear.” Fear is not an emotion we can forever allow to limit us, but it is also not something we should ignore. I did not know much about fear when I was only 9 years old, but I did know that I was afraid. I was at a brand new school that year, and I was hopeful that it would be just as good as my last school. That was not the case, and I was not entirely aware of it until the year had almost passed. I had many years ahead of me before I realized that I would not belong everywhere, and that it is perfectly okay to be afraid, but that I cannot allow that fear to consume me. 

According to an article by Harvard Medicine, in less than 100 milliseconds, signals from the amygdala alert our bodies to become afraid, making us ready to fight, freeze, or flee. Our entire organism responds to danger before we can even comprehend it. The Smithsonian magazine suggests that fear creates distraction, whether as a negative or positive experience. Fear is a high arousal state, meaning that whether we get a chill down our spine or are completely terrorized, the body will respond with a knee-jerk reaction to protect us. In the end, what we must decide for ourselves when we are afraid, is whether or not we will be limited by it, or be pushed to our greatest potential. 

Menting, A. M. (n.d.). The Chill of Fear. Harvard Medicine Magazine. https://magazine.hms.harvard.edu/articles/chill-fear

Magazine, S. (2017, October 27). What happens in the brain when we feel fear. Smithsonian.com. https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/what-happens-brain-feel-fear-18 0966992/ 

Other quotes about fear: 

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself” -Franklin D. Roosevelt 

“A man that flies from his fear may find that he has only taken a shortcut to meet it.” - J.R.R. Tolkien

 “Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.” -Yoda

Before I Sail Through the Stars--Jeome


Long ago, on a secluded and drafty isle, was a young fisherboy walking along the shore. Each day he

arose early and paced about his island barefoot and peckish, looking for something to do (or eat) before

heading out to catch some fish.


The air was icy, that fateful morning, as he wandered about a beach that left not snow, but frigid, damp

sand between those little toes. Full of cold shivers and regret of his decision to leave the cave (had he

known more than just to growl and howl) he would’ve cursed himself using big kid words. Sniffling and

wiping his tiny nose, he elected to examine the crab traps at the back of the island, which had never

caught anything up to this point beyond old discarded glass bottles (always devoid of adult beverage, to

his disappointment).


As the child neared the trees that marked the fishing spot, his good ear caught noise; splashing and

creaking metal, sounds that grew louder with every step closer to the crab pool. Finally, a catch! With his

skin tingling against the cold air and heart racing from excitement, the fisherboy dashed towards the

water, oblivious that daylight had not yet penetrated the canopy to expose a tree toe protruding from

the earth, and he tumbled in.


He tried to gasp for air, but instead sank and gulped several helpings of sandy ocean. His nostrils flared

and lungs burned as the cold rushed against the lining of his chest like blades of ice. His flailing was

beginning to slow, and his vision was dithering as his head dropped below. The last thing he saw before

the darkness set in… what could only be an overgrown lizard, whose ensnared head neared our

fisherboy.

Polaris hoisted the limp and unusually puny human out of the water, set him on the grass, and returned

to clawing at the crab trap that clung to her head (unsuccessfully). In an attempt to fling the trap off her

horns, she swiftly whipped her neck around, back and forth, only to knock herself off balance (again) and

stumble into the water (again), dazed and glad no one was watching.


As frustrating as this predicament was, she was more annoyed that the trap was empty. Decent

fisherman would've easily had a couple dozen crabs for her to take (though she was a gracious thief and

made it a point never to steal more than five), alas this was the seventh trap she found on this island

that was full not of crabs, but human junk and human trash. It was hard work to find where humans hid

their food, and the fact that she had been spending the good hours of her last sunrise foraging for

nothing wa-


Polaris suddenly remembered the small human, from whom she heard nothing. Her head immediately

swiveled towards the child, the violent jerk overcoming the hold of the crab trap, though she didn’t pay

any mind to that. She slithered out of the water and neared the fisherboy, intently searching for signs of

life.


“He’s not breathing”, Polaris muttered to herself, now pacing around the boy in panic. She could hear his

heartbeat, though the sound was as frequent and soft as a dying drizzle. Collecting herself, she raised her

claws and after taking a moment to admire how well she maintained herself, selected the dullest one

and slowly pressed the flat end on the child’s chest (being careful to not crush that fragile, human rib

cage).


Suddenly a spurt of water shot out from the fisherboy’s mouth, prompting Polaris to lift her claw off the

child’s chest to allow a session of sharp and hearty coughing. After eliminating most of the salty sea from

his throat, the child finally looked up toward his rescuer.


Never before had the boy seen anything like Polaris. She resembled the iguanas that lived on the rocks at

the front of the island, though her neck was way longer and her silver scales much smoother. She wore a

crown like a water buffalo’s, though it curved more to the back of her head and was polished. Her wings

were like those of bats that visit to sleep in caves during the cold season, and they too were covered in

metallic plates, impervious to any flint spear. But most important were those eyes–deep purple and pink

that rivaled even the ambiance of the night sky–that had no iris yet made clear where her gaze was

directed. And that gaze was directed to him, and his to her, both unmoving, studying each other.


“How strange”, she whispered to no one in particular. Upon seeing Polaris, any larger fleshbag would

have produced unintelligible noises and scurried away to save themself; yet this child, whose soul did not

give off the scent of fear but the aroma of innocent admiration and curiosity, stood before this grand

creature and met her powerful gaze. Perhaps it was dumbfoundment at the ridiculousness of the

situation, or genuine amazement at supposed bravery, but she began to take a liking to the fisherboy.


“AH-CHOO!!!” The silence was abruptly broken, and they returned to the present. The fisherboy, who

had been dripping wet this whole time, began to shiver in the brisk morning air and sniffled a little.

Polaris gave a small smile (it was less of a smile of the mouth but one of the eyes), before blowing a

gentle stream of warmth to dry the child. His long hair was stuck upright, causing her to snicker before

collecting herself.


“I suppose an introduction is in order. I am Polaris.” She patiently awaited a response to her salutation

but was only met with silence. “What is your name, Child?”, she asked the boy, to which he cocked his

head sideways and mimicked the movements of her mouth without making a noise. Polaris frowned and

paused before asking again, only to meet more lipsyncing. Did he not understand her? Could he even

speak? She thought a bit more and began to wonder what such a small youngling was doing on this

island all alone.


Curious, the giant creature pierced the ground with her claw, drew three stick figures, withdrew herself

from the earth, and gently poked the child's chest. The fisherboy looked down at the illustration, silent

and seeming lost in thought. Did he not understand this either? A few moments later, he knelt down and

wiped away two of the figures, leaving the smallest alone. Though the mute boy did not raise his head,

the quiver of his hands betrayed him and spoke the words he couldn't.

In the afternoon, the pair left the forest and had brunch at the fisherboy’s cave, which sat atop the

island’s largest mountain with a great view of the sea. They ate piles of crispy, smoked salmon, followed

by a dessert of ripe mangoes picked from the boy’s favorite tree, and concluded the meal with a grand

belching competition.


The sensation of eating with someone else was peculiar. The fisherboy ate this meal every day, but this

time it was almost as if the fish was crunchier, the fruit was sweeter, the shade of the cave felt cooler,

the sound of the crashing waves more soothing, and the ritual of after-meal burping was more fun than

ever. His loneliness, although only for a little bit, was replaced with an extraordinary warmth that was

long forgotten and cannot be lost again.


After that, the silvery giant and small child played along the shore until sunset. They raced one another

across the white beachside, flinging clumps of sand behind their feet as they zoomed from end to end.

They played a game of “avoid the tide”, of which Polaris had no hopes of winning due to her long tail

dragging so far behind her. As the sky darkened, they completed a vast sand kingdom complete with

small twig humans with acorns for heads and shell dragons with old leaves for wings, only for it to be

swept away by the tide. And that was okay.


The young fisherboy, exhausted, collapsed into a deep slumber once the moon appeared. Polaris

chuckled to herself before smiling sadly at the small child that she had grown so fond of. Tonight she had

to return home to her place in the stars, but she couldn’t just leave him here, alone again.


And so she uprooted his favorite mango tree, clutched it tightly, gently placed the small, snoring

fisherboy onto her back, spread her plated silver wings, and together they left the drafty, secluded,

crabless isle behind.

The fisherboy, awoke at midnight, confused to find himself in a different cave. The walls were so flat, and

his mat was softer. He had no campfire and the ground was something clean and soft, unlike his dirty

stone floor. There was a hole in his wall, where he could see the world outside his strange cave. He saw

rows upon rows of caves like his, and torches on poles that lit up the caves. And right outside his new

cave, he saw… his mango tree?


He dashed outside, panting, catching Polaris just as she was about to depart. The magnificent creature

turned around and gave him one last smile, before setting off into the night sky. Her silver scales shone

dimmer and dimmer until she too was a star in the heavens.

– The End – 

Hello my Stranger--Kate

 


A year ago I distinctly remember this event. I exit the stall in the women’s restroom in a restaurant and

upon approaching the sink, an elderly Asian woman hovers over the counter. The woman calmly stared at

the chill water streaming down her hands as the faucet ran but oddly enough, her persona presented

safety and comfort in ways that I cannot convey in words but what must be simply felt. As I advanced

closer to her to wash my hands, she fixed her gaze upon the image of me in her mirror only as a result of

glancing up. Following turning on the water, I saw the woman begin to laugh quietly. Without engaging in

eye contact, she said to me, “I’m so full.” I replied, “Me too! But it’s too good to stop haha.” At this moment,

we both looked at each other. Her eyes examined me, neither characterized by judgment nor criticism but

rather appreciation. The woman’s mouth began to curl upward and her amiable smile resonated with mine

that I initially offered her. Her voice, a voice initially hushed which mumbled incomprehensible words now

conversed with broken English but nonetheless happy. Our conversation, though short but sweet, sadly

came to an end in less than 4 minutes. She asked me, “Are you Chinese?” I chuckled and replied, “No I’m

not.” She blushed, expressing a tender smile and responded, “Oh I see. You’re very cute.” Those were the

last words I heard from this stranger as she walked out of the gray restroom back into the public area filled

with the chatter from rows of tables of people dining in, never to be seen by me again.


Connection. What prompts us to connect with someone else? What alters a stranger’s purpose to us from

someone of no importance to one that we cannot let go? My MBTI assessment (personality test) results in

“INFJ” with regards to high emphasis on the “F,” feeling. I envy those who bargain and calculate their

judgements simply on logic; logic in the sense of being assessed based on strict principles defined by

validity, the science of reasoning and deduction. But after that moment, I realized the extent of my

feelings and my love of interacting with others. To many, true connection is difficult. To differ in mindset

and goals is to be disconnected from one another but to be identical is to be lackluster. As someone who

weighs heavily on adoration, infatuation, sentiment, and affection, an emotional connection is simple but

the value is what makes it secure. Romantic and platonic relationships (friends, lovers, family, etc.) are all

forged by affection and constructed I believe not on trust, but on the extent of our fondness. For those who

hold themselves to the standard of logic and reason, I ponder how. Although one can attempt to maintain

consistency and honesty, in the end change is inevitable, for better or for worse. As I’ve lived with myself

over the years, I understand what connection is to me. It is not endless trust nor security nor painless, it’s

the feeling of being cherished and adoring those who you suppose are deserving of your attention,

regardless if it's reciprocated. In a perfect world, everyone is connected with each other and pain is a

fantasy but reality scribes a different tale.


I build relationships with people not because of what they may offer to me, but what I can achieve for

them. Simply replying to a stranger was enough to induce a smile; for that one moment, those four brief

minutes, her happiness was mine. My contentment prospers when I am able to prompt positive emotions in

others. There is no guarantee that one will exert an equal amount of intimacy towards you but if you truly

value an attachment to someone, you should not be expectant of gaining something in return. One shall

love unconditionally. I’m not insinuating that connection can be actualized by only one party, but rather

our intentions must be wholehearted in order for it to be true; otherwise, are you only connecting with

someone because it benefits yourself? Associating with someone does not have to target our deepest

scars and heartbreaks but plainly agreeing that the food we both had eaten was delicious. The effects of

connecting with someone may be defined by time but the impact does not have to go unnoticed. A

compliment, a hello, and a laugh all have the ability to consequent a warmth within the most guarded of

hearts. As I end my narrative, you may label me as unrealistic and illusory but I prefer the word optimistic.

Habitually, I entertain my fantasies by slight reasons of anxiety and what one can merely label as hope,

accepting finite disappointment but nevermore losing infinite expectation. Accept actuality while taking

heed of purpose. H.C. Paye once said, “I’d rather love a million times and have my heart broken every time

than hold a permanently empty heart forever.”


To the lovely lady I had met and connected with in a blink of an eye, I wish you wonders to come, and

thank you for saying hello even though we ended in goodbyes.


What is a man?--Dylan

 

“You two are growing up, and I must shape you into men”, is a phrase my dad says to my brother and I often. As the words leave his mouth, the world stops and the word “men” slowly eats away at my consciousness until it feels like I am gonna be sick. Why does the idea of becoming a man scare me? I am comfortable in my identity of being a male, so why does it cause me so much grief? Maybe the problem is I don’t want to be what my dad thinks a man is. This leads me to the question, What is a man? 

    What a man is can be described in many different ways, but let us start with the definition from Merriam-Webster’s dictionary: “one possessing in high degree the qualities considered distinctive of manhood (such as courage, strength, and vigor).” As alluded to by the definition, the societal idea of a man is typically portrayed as high-strung, courageous, strong, aggressive, and not showing emotion. Lots of issues stem from this toxic characterization of what a man is, encouraging possibly abusive behaviors as well as a lack of emotional maturity. There are benefits in encouraging others to be strong and courageous, but I think a man should be more. I think part of my struggle in truly identifying with the societal definition of what a man is probably stems from the fact I am not traditionally “manly.” Growing up queer, I didn’t have many role models that weren’t explicitly feminine in the media, so that's what I thought I had to be. So for a good portion of my early teens, I chased after the idea that I had to be hyper-feminine with make-up and flashy extravagant outfits, but something was always missing. Although I learned how to be confident in myself and my sexuality, I still thought of myself as a guy but felt I lacked a connection to that aspect of my identity. Part of my apathy towards manhood stems from the fact my dad scared me a lot when I was growing up because he was typically aggressive and loud. I craved to understand what I had to do to be a man but the one male role model I had I lived in fear of becoming, so I tried to avoid the concept altogether. Despite my fear, I still wanted to learn what a man was. In my search for male companions, I made and lost friends, but I did learn something along the way. Being different doesn't make me not a man. And finally being accepted by my male peers helped me realize that. I learned that balance is required to live authentically. I did not need to swear off femininity to be a man. Every man is different, and for me, I just happened to be a guy who was emotional and occasionally flamboyant, but that didn’t have to be a bad thing. Although it felt great to finally be seen, I was still unsure of what I thought a man should be. 

    The funny thing is…I think I knew all along what a man was, but where I learned it from is not where you’d think. I think a man should be courageous, but knows there is a time and place for vulnerability. A man should try to help others with love and care. A man should be a pillar of strength but know when to ask for help. A man is protective of the ones he loves, but not controlling. But these were all lessons I learned from my mom. She treated us with respect to lead by example for how we should speak and treat others. She wasn’t scared to sit us down and talk about things like racism and sexism because to be better men we had to understand the world around us so we could act in a way that was considerate of others. I think my initial reaction to my dad’s statement is that it added to the doubt that I wasn’t manly enough to be a man. It made me feel like something was wrong with me and I still had to be fixed before I went into the adult world. But I think I am finally satisfied with myself and my journey into manhood, and I am finally ready to be a man.


Focus--Yandel


Many of us have been told by someone that we have to focus on our goals, but sometimes

they don’t know the struggles we go through. For some people it may be school, sports, or even

relationships that cost attention and money. Whenever I start to do something from scratch, I

tend to plan the process in a manner that will result in the greatest outcome. To me, this is what I

mean by focusing, or what younger people refer to nowadays as “locking-in”. According to

Merriam-Webster's dictionary, focus is defined as “a center of activity, attraction, or attention”

followed up by the secondary definition of “a point of concentration”. In reality, there are several

connotations of the term as it can relate to different scenarios. The most inferred definitions by

most people of the term focus are to relate to a purpose or goal, attention and concentration, and

emphasis or priority.


Firstly, the purpose or goal in focus, can be seen as something that you want to achieve or

improve in a particular time frame. For me, I need to focus on improving my fitness before the

start of Etiwanda’s high school soccer season. Moreover, attention and concentration is pretty

simple to understand, but in short means to give your full and undivided attention to a certain

task. Funny enough, most of us have heard this phrase before from our teachers, but it’s

important because teachers want us students to give full effort and priority to what we’re

assigned to do. On my occasion, I give my full attention to the drills my soccer coach is showing

us (especially if I’m first in line) because messing up must be one of the hardest feelings to

experience, and not to mention the frustration my teammates and coach will have towards me.

This connection may be different for non-athletes, but the idea and feeling is similar. Lastly, the

importance of emphasis or priority is crucial in our everyday lives as it relates to a particular

aspect or element. I like to compare this to the term “meaning” or “purpose” because it implies

the central concept of a discussion or project. One instance like this is when I missed a class or a

school day last year, I would ask a friend or classmate what the focus was on, in relation to the

lesson or test. The definition of focus mainly depends on the context in which it is used. Famous

people like Steve Jobs have given their opinion on the term’s meaning, by sharing a quote that

states “People think focus means saying yes to the thing you've got to focus on. But that's not

what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are.” In other

words, centering on one thing is more valuable than worrying about other things. Additionally, a

movie was filmed in 2015 titled “Focus”, which starred Will Smith and Margot Robbie. Its brief

overview was that Nicky (the main character; Will Smith) and Jess (the supporting character;

Margot Robbie) were partners in the trade field, but found themselves romantically involved.

Nicky made the decision of splitting up because he needed to focus on his job and find his

purpose.


Overall, my understanding of focus leads to the main idea of trying your hardest in times

of essence. There are countless times throughout each person’s day where you have to focus on

something, whether it may be problem solving, work and productivity, or even hobbies and

technology. I know from experience that playing video games is one of the most important times

where one needs to focus as winning that game or going to the next level is in everyone’s best

interest. About 2 years ago, my soccer team, which included me, made it to the national playoffs

for one of the top leagues of youth soccer in the United States. In times like these, I knew I had

to lock in and focus as many scouts were attending my games. As my first game was about to

start, my dad who was sitting in the bleachers of the stadium with a tracksuit (due to being chilly

on the eastern side) pointed both of his pointer fingers towards his head, symbolizing the idea of

focusing and doing my absolute best. Alongside my dad, there were my teammates who

supported one another for an opportunity of a lifetime. And maybe just sometimes, will you

decide to put the phone down and focus on yourself, not worrying about the world or events

happening around you.



1. Focus definition - https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/focus

2. Steve Jobs quote -

https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/629613-people-think-focus-means-saying-yes-to-thething-

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