Not many people realize the value of life or even cherish what it is like to be alive. Many
just go out in the world not caring or realizing that life is valuable and time is precious. Nothing
ever lasts forever and sadly I learned that from one of my dearest friends. Her name is Dana
Grace Housley. Dana hasn’t been feeling great for the passed couple of weeks, she even
missed finals because she has been complaining of headaches. She even went to the doctors
but they said nothing was wrong. I was still young, only fourteen and I had just finished my
freshman year. It was a normal start of summer for me, beginning with a softball tournament the
week after we got out of school. Everything seemed routine. I woke up, got ready for my games
not realizing I was about to go through the biggest tragedy of my young life. I get to the softball
fields and there she was so full of life, smile as bright as ever. I didn’t realize that would be my
last time seeing her smile. My team did our usual warm up routine getting ready for the games
ahead. I remember asking her, “ Dana, how are you feeling? Any better?” She replied with her
big smile and said, “ yes, I feel good. My head doesn’t hurt anymore.” The game was about to
start and I felt happy, she was feeling better and everything seemed to be good. We got through
the game about half way until everything became so unreal. Dana would always find little
random items and give them to me and she would think it was so funny. She was always so
random and when she was on deck she gave me another one of her random gifts. She called
me over and told me to stick out my hand and she handed me the plastic thing that connects
tags to clothes. I remember looking at her, laughing, and telling her, “ thank you.” She smiled
and nodded laughing as well. That was the last time she made me laugh. It was her turn to bat
and she hit a foul ball and ran to first base. She came back to home plate to pick her bat up to
hit again and she collapsed. The stands got quiet. No one knew what was going on. She
became unconscious and the ambulance was called. Luckily, one of the parents in the stands
happened to be a nurse and held her over until the ambulance got there. When the ambulance
arrived, they stripped off her shirt and placed her lifeless body on the gurney and rushed her to
the nearest hospital which was down the street at Kaiser in Fontana. My team didn’t really
understand what was happening at that time and just thought she had fainted. My coach pulled
my team aside and asked if we wanted to finish playing the game so we decided to finish the
game for her and won. We had an hour game break so my coach decided to go check on Dana
at the hospital so he could update us on how she was doing. We got a phone call a little while
later telling us things were not looking good and our precious Dana was now on life support,
fighting for her life. We forfeited the tournament and went straight to the hospital. I remember
feeling so helpless because all we could do was wait and pray. Nights and days at the hospital
felt forever. I don’t think I slept at all that week she was in the hospital. Her parents came down
and asked us if we wanted to see her but it was going to be hard looking at her because she
was connected to a whole bunch of tubes and a big machine. I went up to her room and held
her hand asking her if she could please wake up. I stayed up there for a while telling her it was
okay if she wanted to go and I’d still always love her and never forget her. I gave her a kiss on
her forehead and pale cheeks making sure she knew I was there. Everything felt like a living
nightmare. The doctors said it would be a miracle if she woke up and even if she did, she
wouldn’t remember anyone and become a vegetable. She had a brain aneurysm which is very
rare for a fifteen year old to have. Danas’ parents finally pulled the plug the fifth day she was in
the hospital. I remember that day so vividly. I didn’t think I would ever stop crying. She passed
away on February 27, 2015. She was a beautiful girl and had the most beautiful soul. She had
the most purest heart and such bubbly personality. She was always friendly and nice to
everyone and could make anyone’s day by just being her. I will never forget all the laughs she
gave me. I miss playing softball with her because she was such a good teammate. It was really
hard for me because I used to see her everyday. I saw her at school and with our travel ball
team on the weekends. It wasn’t easy getting used to not seeing her everyday. I always
questioned why such a terrible thing could happen to such a good person. Some images I wish I
could unsee like her falling, or her in the hospital, or even her lying peacefully in her casket. I
had to mature at such a young age and learned such an important life lesson which was things
can change in a matter of seconds and to not take anyone or anything for granted. She was a
fallen angel and I am proud to say she was one of my best friends. I know she is happy and
doing okay because she told me that in my dreams one night. She always reminds me that
she’s still here because I find items that she loved in random places. One time I found a
bouquet of sunflowers on the beach stuck in the sand by the shore. Sunflowers were her
favorite. I am blessed to know that she is now my guardian angel and is forever with me always.
I wanted to say sorry for your loss, she seemed like the most vibrant and radiating person. Im glad you got to share this, it was a beautiful piece.
ReplyDeleteThis was a very heartbreaking piece to read. I remember her well and it is so great to know her closest friends and everyone she touched will continue to keep her memory alive. My condolences to both you and her family
ReplyDeleteWow this is really emotional. You are so strong for writing this, Dana really seems like such a beautiful person. Thank you for sharing. -Kassandra Carlson
ReplyDeleteThis was a tragic event that was life changing for many. Sorry for your loss, it will get better in time. Just keep your head up. This piece was really touching and very detailed. Great work!
ReplyDeleteThis is such a beautiful piece and I totally understand how you feel because I also lost one of my friends that same year. I know it is hard but never forget that she is always watching over you and that she is in a better place now.
ReplyDelete-Diana Flores
This piece truly conveys the value of life and i liked how you turned this experience into a positive reflection of how one should appreciate life and cherish the moments spent. Thank you for sharing this and im sorry for your loss
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your loss, I can only imagine the pain that you were and still are struck by as a result of losing someone so dear to you. You are truly so strong and brave for continuing to live your life to the fullest like she would have wanted you to. Beautiful and heartwarming piece.
ReplyDeleteJada, this piece got to me on so many levels as I relive all of this from time to time. Dana was one of my really good friends as well and I still recall the last time that I spoke to her, the last time that we laughed and had a heart to heart, and the moment that I found out she was in the hospital. This was a tragedy that hit home for what I believe was a majority of the community. You worded everything so beautifully and it makes me beyond happy to know that you know she is watching over you and all her loved ones. Dana would have wanted us all to remember her as her unique, loving, and bubbly self.
ReplyDelete-Savannah Diaz
I'm so sorry for your loss. The way you poured your emotions into this piece of writing was truly so beautiful and heartfelt. You were able to capture so many vivid details into this one piece of writing and it was beyond amazing. Thank you for sharing. Great job!
ReplyDelete- Lexi Gomez, p.4
I’m sorry that you lost someone so close to you, this piece was really sweet and made me feel happy that you were able to recall all of the good things about her. - Aaryn Cranon
ReplyDeleteIn spite of the awful tragedy of the situation, I think it's beautiful how you continue to honor Dana everyday by remembering and thinking of her. Again though, I am so sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteAlthough I did not know Dana personally I'm sure she would've been just as touched by this piece. Thank you for sharing such a personal and life changing experience and I know Dana is watching over you and all of us. Your piece made me realize how precious life is and how we should not take it for granted. I'm sorry for your loss and rest in peace to your guardian angel.
ReplyDeleteWow! This is very heartbreaking, but it takes a lot of strength and courage to write this and share with the rest of us. I'm so sorry for your loss. -Ayo Latinwo
ReplyDeleteWhat a great piece you wrote, and praise your strength to share this. I only knew for a short time, and reading this made me reflect on that short time. Glad you came out talking about her, and rest in peace Dana.
ReplyDeleteThis was an amazing piece. I cried a little bit because I could feel the hurt that you put in this piece and I understand the pain that you went through because I lost my grandma about a month ago and it really is sad to see the people that we love so much go. At least now Dana is resting in peace and watching us from above and I know for a fact that she is always with you in good and bad situations.
ReplyDelete-Briana Santana
Jada,
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your loss and my prayers go out to you and Dana's family. This piece was beautiful and very moving. It was also very emotional. I appreciate you willing to share such an emotional piece, it shows a lot strength and courage on your part. Although I did not who Dana was personally, I'm sure that she would've appreciated such a piece and she would have been moved by it. You are a great friend to her and I am sure that she was to you. Thank you so much for sharing this piece and showcasing your strength in a time as difficult as this was. Well done.
Lynelle Elhajjmoussa
Wow. The fact that I grew up and went to both elementary and middle school with Dana makes this piece all the more relatable. It truly was a tragic loss for all the lives she touched but we know she’s resting peacefully now. - Altierre Paris
ReplyDeleteI must say thank you for sharing such a heart wrenching and, I'm sure, a difficult piece to write for you. I could really feel the emotions and the love you poured into this piece. I distinctly remember hearing about this event back in my Freshmen and sophmore year but never was able to hear the specifics of the tragedy. Again, thank you for sharing not only what happened but how things were before her passing. I'am deeply sorry, you sounded very close to her
ReplyDelete- Brendan Sweeney
I remember when this happened and feeling like everything sucked. Honestly how it felt for awhile since it was my first real experience with a death of someone I knew. So this piece was really nice to read and to see what it was like for someone else. -jaden dawson
ReplyDeleteI admire your strength for sharing this life changing moment with your peers. I personally am thankful for your kind words about Dana because she was the person who brought me out of my shell in middle school and left a huge impact on my life, and many others. Your personal narrative is a good reminder to cherish every moment in our lives. Great work.
ReplyDelete-Unity Montalvo, period 4
This is such a beautiful piece. You are so brave and courageous and thank you for opening up and sharing your story with such vivid detail. - Taren Thomas
ReplyDeleteIt's hard to lose someone who you love, especially when they were so young. Thank you for sharing insight into your story, and showing a positive mindset with the way you chose to share your friend's story.
ReplyDelete-Arianna Perez
wow, this was incredibly heart breaking but also a beautiful ode to her. I think its always important to remember the people that affected us because they are always with us. Its really beautiful to see how the impact helped you learn abut the value of life and its importance.
ReplyDelete-Sasha Hodder