The Modern Day Gentlemen--Chris

Chivalry is something most people in my generation know almost nothing about and if they
do have some knowledge about it to them the idea is somewhat outdated. In a brief description to be chivalrous is to be a gallant and noble towards women, in other words, a gentleman. A gentleman is polite, honorable and most importantly respectful and a true gentleman is always chivalrous towards women. However nowadays if a guy treats a woman with respect he’s labeled by others as a “simp”, which by definition is essentially a guy that lets women walk over him by doing anything for them, so basically a pushover. The word simp is heavily used by guys trying to insult someone for treating women a certain way. For example, my friend had feelings for this girl for a long time and would always be courteous and was always a gentleman towards this girl. Because my friend would act like a gentleman with this girl many of our friends would call him a simp just because he’d act like that around said girl. But why did my friend have to be insulted by our friends just for respecting the girl he liked? It has to do with many of the misogynistic values that are instilled upon us when we are younger that women are inferior to men which is not the case. Most misogynist can’t wrap their head around the idea that women are equal or even stronger than men so when they see a man respecting a woman and putting her on a pedestal so to speak they see him doing something unfathomable so they ridicule the man and

insult him just like my friend when he was labeled a simp. Due to this the word simp is overused quite often and may have lost its original meaning because in some cases a simp can be the modern-day form of a gentleman.

To many people the idea of being chivalrous and being a gentleman may seem outdated, but why should someone be ridiculed for being polite and having good manners. But some guys that treat women with courtesy and respect are ostracized and labeled as simps so one could argue that simps are in some mays the modern version of a gentleman but under a different title. I was taught by my family growing up that a boy should always be a gentleman and always treat a woman with respect. As I got older, I realized not everyone would act like a gentleman towards a woman and often act rudely towards them and the guys that did were made fun of for being nice to a girl whether he liked her or not. That being said I’ve always done my best to be a gentleman and utilize the values that were instilled upon me at a young age, while some people might call a simp because I open the doors for girls and I’ll lend a girl my jacket if it's cold, I welcome it because I’ll choose the way I act and the values I uphold and not let a misogynistic society change who I am. If being a gentleman in these modern times means I’ll be called a simp well so be it I’ll have pride in being one of the modern-day gentlemen.