What does it mean to be in a relationship? Commitment, love, attention, and faithfulness
are all important in a relationship. We all go on Twitter and see people tweeting “men are trash” and other various things. But when you look at how many of those people there are, it’s actually quite tragic. A random person could just find someone who just tweeted about how their significant other cheated on them and take it for granted. That is unacceptable. Relationships are what drive us as humans to better ourselves for the sake of love and affection. Spending the whole day with your lover, cuddling with them, sharing both positive and negative emotions, and being proud of the relationship you two have. Why is it so hard to do those things with our lovers? Embarrassment perhaps? Too much energy consumption on your part? If you can’t even do those things, stop getting into a relationship. I once saw an amazing tweet that went along the lines of “If there isn’t trust in a relationship, then there is toxicity”. However, not everyone can easily trust when they get into a relationship. Such trust was could have been lost in a previous relationship. It is because of the lack of energy and commitment to a relationship that people end up getting hurt and start to lose faith. Who are we to blame them if we can’t even fathom the pain they suffered? I define a relationship as a bond forged on trust because of the shared emotions and commitment to one another. When all that starts to fade, trust starts to fade as well causing the relationship to be toxic. I knew of a person who was controlling in their relationship and ended it because she fell for another
guy. The boy who was dumped started to notice that the girl started hanging out more with the guy she fell for than the person she was together with. The boy later asked her if she wanted to
end it, and she did. To make yourself in charge and control your lover is not what defines a relationship. Both lovers must be willing to show their sensitive side because it is that very thing that brings us closer. Another thing, being in love and desperate for love are two different things. I knew a girl who broke up with her boyfriend because he was cheating on him with another girl. However, the girl started to become desperate for love and found herself wanting her ex. This is a tragic example of what cheating does to someone. Their hearts are broken, and they need someone to fix it. That is why I believe a relationship should always be taken seriously and not for granted. If you believe something is wrong in your own relationship, don’t be afraid to speak up. Talk to your lover and sort out your feelings. If it’s deeper than that, TELL SOMEONE YOU TRUST. Do not allow yourself to be in a toxic relationship because the effects are nearly irremediable. Strive for love, not lust my friends.
I like that last line. I think people have a very twisted concept of relationships. I totally agree with sharing positive AND negative emotions. Stagnant relationships are rather dull and people will grow apart by either caring too much or not caring enough. Really good piece!
ReplyDeletemany people get caught up in bad situations and you highlighting and writing about this is helping more people then you know. i agree with everything you had said and the mindset you are explaining is very just.
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I enjoyed reading this piece because many people, especially people new to dating should hear some of the points you made. It is very important to trust the person you are with and I agree that if there is no trust then the relationship will not work.
ReplyDeleteI feel like this is a great evaluation of our nature as humans. You did a great job explaining the differences between love and lust.
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading your piece. I have seen many of my friends in toxic relationships and it's difficult to be a bystander because no matter how many times you warn them to leave, they do not listen and choose to stay. I am someone who is cautious with people whom I give my trust to but that insecurity stems from family betrayal. I agree that people must speak out in their relationships when things are not okay because later it will become a relationship that only brings pain and negativity.
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ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed reading your take on relationships. I appreciate that there must be trust in order for a relationship in order for a successful relationship. Of course, not every relationship will have that perfect amount of trust; some may have too little and some may even have too much. But I must agree; trust must be the basis for all relationships! Thank you for sharing.
Ryan Dogoldogol
Nice job mate. Some people go into relationships and sometimes don't always realize how important or meaning a relationship can be. I agree that relationships have a deeper commitment and should be given more effort. If it really doesn't work then it doesn't work.
ReplyDeleteI can relate to this piece very well, I see and know of numerous relationships that with the exact situations that you explained. Communication and trust is key to a healthy relationship, if you don't have these two things then you are not ready for a relationship PERIOD.
ReplyDeleteEthan Lazo
This piece offered thoughtful comments on the nature of relationships and you gave good advice about teenagers, trust, and how to handle toxic situations which would help many people. I liked some advices you gave, such as that trust is monumental in relationships or else they don't work out, and I think this is an excellent essay. Well done!
ReplyDeleteI think many people can read this and fully agree with you. I also think that relationships should be taken seriously because they can really shape who you are as a person.
ReplyDelete-Brooke Vanassa
I really enjoyed reading your piece, it was very informative and can be used as an eye opener for some people. Many people new to dating could learn from the statements you made. Great work!!
ReplyDeleteAmazing work, Ravi! I completely agree with your statements about trust, in fact, the entire piece. I never imagined anyone writing about this topic, but I am glad you did. This work can be great advice for others, myself included, and guide other individuals in the right direction.
ReplyDeleteI enjoy reading your piece on your thoughts on love and relationships. I sort of agree yet I also disagree, I disagree that it someone lusts for another because they might want to break that barrier or "toxicity" but they're not sure how and I agree with your statement about how some people might just have toxic traits and this is when I believe they shouldn't be in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed how you mentioned how open one must be in a relationship. This is something I think we can all learn from.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with this! I think relationships are extremely scary especially when you don't know what the other person's intentions are. You never truly know what someone is capable of no matter how long you know them or how much you trust them. Cheating and abuse are too common nowadays. Relationships get messier as we grow older, back then they were sweet, genuine, and innocent. People enjoyed going on dates and just being around each other. Now people look for other things and aren't content with just being in one relationship. Our generation doesn't know the true definition of what a relationship should be like. Of course, negative emotions should be shared and every relationship has difficult moments which is not a good enough reason to quit. However, often times we mistake those moments with toxicity which is something that should never be accepted or tolerated. Amazing piece. -Leslie Marquez
ReplyDeleteI can totally relate to your interpretation on how trust is the foundation for a relationship to work out. I think that people end up cheating because they aren't happy and that's something that can be avoided without hurting the other person. Your writing carried so much emotion and passion which can be seen throughout the entirety of the piece. I really liked tour topic!
ReplyDelete-Stephanie Martinez
This is something that more people need to see and understand. The sooner people understand this type of love and not just stupid little "high school" loves that often end maliciously, the happier people would be. The part about sensitivity I believe is one of the most important things in a relationship. Vulnerability is showing emotions that are scary and can put you at risk of being hurt, but it is one of the most important aspects of a relationship.
ReplyDeleteI loved this piece! I think we share a lot of the same views! -Sofia Rosales
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed this a lot because this made me realize more within an actual relationship, from the emotion to the love from one another.
ReplyDeleteCheating really is something that doesn't need to happen and yet it still does. A secretive endeavor meant to protect those from pain but ironically causes more distress as a result. Trust and commitment are truly binding elements.
ReplyDeleteThis is a good piece that I enjoyed reading because we can all relate to at least some part of it. Good job
ReplyDeleteRavi, your piece was very amazing. I really enjoyed all of your viewpoints on the idea and manifestation of a relationship. The type of love that you described, and how to get there was very eye opening. I definitely see your viewpoints in real life ! Your piece was very amazing and I enjoyed your perspective.
ReplyDeletePayton Cordura
Many people don't grasp this concept until much later after high school. I completely agree with you Ravi many people focus on the fact that they are in a relationship but don't try to make their partner happy but only focus on themselves. Taking into consideration other peoples feelings besides your own can really make a difference in the way that they act or how much they are able to let themselves love the other person based on their last relationship. Great piece of work!! -Jazmine Hernandez Period 2
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