“ Friendship isn’t about who you’ve known the longest. It’s about who walked into your life, Said “ I'm here for you,” and proved it.” (Rodenhizer) Friendship has always been
something that us humans have had to understand ever since birth. As we grow up, we are given
lessons about how to care for other people and be nice. This has been introduced to us as the
phrase, “being a friend.” As years progressed, we have been given misconceptions on what
friends should be like. These misconceptions include letting our friends have “fun” by making
bad decisions, seeing our friend every day, and which person we’ve known the longest will be
our friend forever. However, friendship isn’t about that, therefore, what is friendship ?
Looking at the definition, we can comprehend that friendship is a commitment of caring about another’s well being and a desire to be in interaction with them rather it be every two days or only seeing them once a month. We can also see that friendship is a mutual trust, respect, compassion and love for another person whom we share interests with. By being able to acknowledge that friendship is about having a connection with someone emotionally and mentally, we can see that those misconceptions are indeed false. We often have an issue when people call us out when we are in the wrong, however, in order to be a good friend by definition, doing this is showing that we respect our friend enough to tell them that what they are doing is wrong. Another misconception that has been proven false is that we need to see our friend almost every day in order to have a friendship with them. Although, some people can go years without seeing their friend and can still have that connection with the person and care about their well-being. The last misconception that was mentioned was about the duration of knowing the person means that you will be their friend forever. However, studies have shown that most people don’t keep the same friends from middle school and they also don’t keep the same friends from highschool. Knowing this, we can see that the duration of friends doesn’t matter and that recent people that have come into our life can have the same connection and maybe stronger from those who we’ve known for a longer period of time.
“ Friendship isn’t about who you’ve known the longest. It’s about who walked into your life, Said “ I'm here for you,” and proved it.” (Rodenhizer). Friendship has been introduced to us ever since we were little. As we have grown up, we have been given lessons on being a good friend. However, misconceptions in the word “friendship” have been introduced to us, making us lose the true definition of what a friend should look and act like. Through research we have discovered that friendship is a commitment of caring for another’s well being and a desire to be in interaction with them rather it be every two days or only seeing them once a month and a mutual trust, respect, compassion and love for another person whom you share interests with.
Work cited
Law, Vicky. “4 Myths About Friendship Nobody Ever Tells You About.” Thrive global, Originally published on Medium, 5 July 2018, https://thriveglobal.com/stories/4-myths-about-friendship-nobody-ever-tells-you-about/. ‘
Rodenhizer, Samuel. ““ Friendship isn’t about who you’ve known the longest. It’s about who walked into your life, Said “ Im here for you,” and proved it.”” Quotation celebration word press, Unknown, 7 November 2016, https://quotationcelebration.wordpress.com/2016/11/07/friendship-isnt-about-who-youve-known- the-longest-its-about-who-walked-into-your-life-said-im-here-for-you-and-proved-it-unknown/.
uknown. “Friendship.” good therapy, uknown, 3 June 2020, https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/friendship.
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